Compassion and Kindness
Compassion is the feeling that arises when you are concerned with another’s suffering and feel motivated to relieve that suffering.
Kindness is any act with an intention of giving comfort to another being without the expectation of something in return.
The world struggles with many big issues – poverty, illiteracy, corruption, income disparity, crime and many more. There is one more –
The world is a dangerous place not because of those who do evil but because of those who look and do nothing. – Albert Einstein
The fast-paced world expects a lot from us and does not allow us to genuinely feel others’ pains and strive to help. Therefore, we fail to connect with each other.
The problem is – it is a rising challenge and the bigger problem is we are ignoring it.
Considering the current state of our level of humanity and poor connections with each other, we strongly feel that accommodating simple acts of kindness can change the world for good. Acts of kindness albeit small if done with great love and compassion has the power to transform the world.
Mother Teresa said “Not all of us can do great things. But we all can do small things with great love.”
When we give, we not only give, we receive – something that has a profound value, that is greater than the thing being exchanged. That is a deep connection we develop. The connection that allows us to see through the pains and sufferings of others and create a genuine interest to help. This great connection is a win-win for all – for the giver, the receiver, for the one who watches, gets inspired and takes it forward.
Self-compassion is nurturing yourself with all the kindness and love you would shower on someone you cherish.
A middle-aged divorced lady went for a date and was rejected. She told a friend and her friend candidly told her you are getting old; you don’t look attractive. I am afraid why would a man be attracted to you. Learn to accept and live like this.
You know who that friend was? ”Her own unguarded thoughts.” This was the conversation she was having with her own self.
What she needs is self-care – ”Self-Compassion”.
If you want to be happy, practice compassion. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. – Dalai Lama
Kindness At Work
A new field of research is suggesting that when organisations promote an ethic of compassion, they may not only see a happier workplace but also an improved bottom line.
Consider this important issue of “workplace culture” which is often overlooked. “Lack of bonding within the workplace” has been shown to increase psychological distress whereas “positive social interactions at work” have been shown to boost employee health — by lowering heart rate and blood pressure, and by strengthening the immune system.
Despite this research, managers may shy away from compassion for fear of appearing weak. Yet history is ﬁlled with leaders who were highly compassionate and very powerful — Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King, and Desmond Tutu, to name a few. They were such strong and inspiring leaders that people would drop everything to follow them.
Wouldn’t you want to build managers with this kind of loyalty and commitment?
How does kindness help?
Research shows that Kindness is good for our overall well-being. In fact, a new field of research is suggesting that when organisations promote an ethic of compassion, they may not only see a happier workplace but also an improved bottom line.
Kindness and Compassion boost health by:
- Lowering heart rate
- Lowering blood pressure
- Strengthening the immune system
- It is anti-aging
- Speeds up recovery from diseases
- Leads to greater psychological well-being
- Makes us sought after
What more? Our future generation experience a better world.
Not enough? “Kindness is contagious” – acts of generosity, compassion, and kindness bring forth more generosity in a chain reaction of goodness. This is how culture is formed and communities flourish.
“Isn’t this the kind of culture you would want to build at your workplace, home and society at large?”
“Poverty is not made by God; it is created by you and me when we don’t share what we have.”